"if you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do well matters very much."I was thinking about this today. I just finished listening to Jodi Picoult's Nineteen Minutes. It's a story about a boy who's always being bullied in school. One day, he had enough. He killed 10 people in school and wounded 19 others.
by Jacqueline Lee Bouvier Kennedy
His parents weren't really bad guys. They're just normal. They didn't abuse him (according to the story). Who's to blame? More important, how to prevent it?
Parenting would be a whole lot easier if we could go to amazon.com and buy "Parenting for Dummies" books. I don't know if they have that book on sale, but that's just my example. There's no manual, because each and every child is different. Not even twins can be alike.
I heard that we, as parents, must do the best we can. But what is best? Where is the standardized unit of measuring a parent's best?
Today, my three-year-old came to me and said, "Mommy, stop working. I want some oatmilk." No, he doesn't really want an oatmeal. He wants yugort and milk for lunch. I don't think we read that in any of the numerous children's book we've read. It's his own idea. I look at him and wonder what he will be when he's grown up. As I breastfeed by 18-months old baby I wonder if I should do something more to ensure that he's going to be a happy, well-adjusted person.
When I am very busy catching up on work that I cannot sit on homework time with my students (the older 3), am I affecting their future success? As parents, do we get free pass for the mistakes we made? Is there a do-over?
well,thats what we do,Shosh...work while taking care of them.nice question..free pass huh,LOL!
ReplyDeletechildren grow through our love,effort and affection.im sure,part of their growing is the understanding that moms are not wonderwoman!!
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have a nice weekend,Shosh!!
Good Friday afternoon to you, Midas !
ReplyDeleteJackie was a very good mother... Caroline has turned out excellently, and even John seemed to be a good kid for the most part...
And Jodi P. writes EXCELLENT books. I've loved almost all of them, including The Pact, Keeping Faith, The Pact, Mercy and Picture Perfect...
One of the hardest jobs in the world has to be being a parent...
There is no do-over. I think finally, there is understnding when your kids have kids of thier own... maybe... or go to a lot of therapy and try to really get that you did the best you knew how based on how you were raised...
Loving Annie
I'm no parent but I guess there is no manual on being a good one like you said. I guess the standard itself is your beliefs and your values. My parents raised us on what they believe is important for us.
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